Written by: Kelsey Romanoff, LCPC
Surviving and thriving; there’s a big difference between the two. Survival considers basic human needs (food, water, shelter, etc.), while thriving suggests a person is living well above or beyond meeting those basic human needs.
Throughout this year + of the global pandemic, most of our daily or “normal” lives have been turned upside down, at least in some capacity. There have been many changes with work and school schedules, several canceled trips and plans, and socially distancing from friends and family. Change is hard but this temporary lifestyle will not be a forever lifestyle, though it’s impact will likely last for years to come. We are simply in survival mode to protect ourselves and others, and, ultimately, slow and stop the spread of Covid-19.
There is nothing “normal” about the quarantine or pandemic life. But it’s not permanent. Many of us are dealing with undesirable, unexpected circumstances. Ideally, we would not implement extra screen time into our children’s schedules. Of course it’s not ideal for seniors in high school to miss out on milestones such as prom or graduation, or other fun activities weekly with friends. However, there is nothing ideal about being quarantined for at least two and a half months, or wearing a mask over our nose and mouth for over a year. Undoubtedly, this is our current reality and all are adjusting as best as we can.
I am a firm believer on this: it is OKAY to give yourself permission to live with more grace. Grace for yourself, for not meeting your “normal” expectations. Grace for your family and friends, who may also be struggling to adjust. Grace for teachers, who are learning how to instruct courses online or hybrid model. Grace for your children, who are likely confused, frustrated or acting out more than usual. Grace for your spouse, who is likely stressed or worried about changes in work schedules, finances, or what will come in the future.
This too shall pass. We will eventually return to a new form of normal, where we will have more opportunities to thrive again. This current experience is a great learning and growth opportunity to practice the beauty of grace.
Tips on how to practice grace and manage stress:
- Slow down and enjoy the smaller, more mundane moments or way of life
- Take a deep breath and meditate/sit in silence
- Start a “gratitude” journal
- Take a walk with or without music/a podcast
- Listen more intentionally
- Confide in a friend or family member
- Write reminders of self-affirmation on post-its around your room, on your mirror, or in your planner
- Find or create opportunities to laugh and embrace the unique experiences we have during this time
